Aslamualaikum,
Inshallah you are in best of health. I am a 27 year old female with a 19 month old girl and 5 month old boy. I am emailing to seek some advice as I am really struggling to make a decision. I have been having issues with my in laws whom I live with I have 1 sister in law and a mother in law and father in law. We all live together and me and my kids and husband stay in one small room. The issues I have been having are my father in law raising his voice at me infront of my kids unnecessarily and my sister in laws who are married coming to the house and causing issues between me and my husband by saying things about me to him. This has been going on for 2 years I am really struggling to stay happy in that house although I have tried so hard. Now the mother in law and father in law trying to cause issues between me and him. My husband does not help at all with the kids he doesn’t know how to because he relying so much on his mother and his mother doesn’t help me anyway. I have come to my mother’s house because at first my husband said he will find me a house if I am not comfortable in the family house. We have a house together which now all of a sudden he wants to sell so that I have no option other than to stay in that house. I have objected to this and now because I have my husband is saying how I need to say yes to any decision he makes and how I shouldn’t question anything he says because he is the man he makes the decisions. But when it comes to raising the kids and providing me with protection and kids with protection he doesn’t act like he’s the man. He has told me to stay at my mums house and I will come to senses after realizing how hard it is. He has said for kids to stay here too. He has not once thought about how 3 months kids will not see their father my boy is small In 3 months he won’t recognise his father. Now he has given me the option I can come back as long as I stay in the family house and don’t create any problems and say yes to everything he says without questioning. I want a secure future for my kids and he hasn’t even given me that either as we are not married in the country and only have nikkah. I just don’t know what the best decision to do is. My family have given me their thoughts on what I should do however they are being emotional and saying to stay without him and he will realise however I know this isn’t how marriages work. How can I trust him when he doesn’t trust me he thinks I will take his half of the money he has put in the house and not give him it. Inshallah you can give me some advice I look forward to hearing back from you.
Jazakallah Khair
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